Learning to create and keep boundaries can be hard at times so a reminder like this can really help. I spent a full year copying
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What can we really control?
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What can we really control in our lives?
We can’t control other people’s thoughts or actions, we can’t control how they act towards us… What they do or do not do… If they keep their promises to us.
The Power to Choose
At any time you can decide to alter the course of your life.
No one can ever take that away from you. You can do what you want to do and be who you want to be. Nature is constantly at work around you. Character and destiny are her handiwork. She gives you love and hate, jealousy and reverence.
You have the power to choose which impulse you follow.
While your character is formed by your circumstances, your desires can shape those circumstances.
The one thing over which you have absolute control are your own thoughts.It is this that puts you in a position to control your own destiny.
Your greatest power is the power to choose.
The art of self control
Perfecting your character takes a lot of effort. It is not a goal that you accomplish and then you can relax because you have “made it.” Developing your character is an ongoing process which never ends. There will always be something or someone who will try to throw a monkey wrench into your peaceful existence. Controlling your thoughts and your emotions takes work, but the more that you practice these skills, the easier they will become.
The art of self-control is like every other endeavor; you will have good days and bad days in your quest to perfect this skill. Nobody is perfect, especially when it comes to controlling thoughts and emotions. There will be days when you fall short of your goal. I can assure you that you will have days in which you allow your anger or impatience to get the best of you, just as you will have days when your back kick does not click for whatever reason, but it is important that you don’t quit.
When you find that you are having a bad day with your physical training, you don’t say this is not working and never go back to the dojo. The same goes for your mental training. When you have a bad day, go home and relax, meditate, and cleanse your heart and mind.
Get things back in balance and know that every day you start with a clean slate. Once you actually get your heart clean, it is much easier to keep it clean. If you find the same things continue to throw you off balance time after time, go to the source and remove the root of your of your problem. Think about this.
The Art of Stupidity 