Letting go of Guilt and Anxiety
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Boundaries – Checklist Mantra
Learning to create and keep boundaries can be hard at times so a reminder like this can really help. I spent a full year copying
What can we really control?
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What can we really control in our lives?
We can’t control other people’s thoughts or actions, we can’t control how they act towards us… What they do or do not do… If they keep their promises to us.
Dare!
Dare to look foolish.
The real fools are those who never attempt anything. Continue reading
Don’t wait
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Who *are* YOU?
Name five impressive things about yourself.
Write them down or just shout them out loud to the room.
But here’s the catch — you’re not allowed to list anything you are (i.e., I’m a nice guy, I’m honest), but instead can only list things that you do (i.e., I’ve just been awarded a certificate for volunteering, I make the best curry in Doncaster).
If you found that difficult, well, this is for you.
Stop making excuses and do it.
The Power to Choose
At any time you can decide to alter the course of your life.
No one can ever take that away from you. You can do what you want to do and be who you want to be. Nature is constantly at work around you. Character and destiny are her handiwork. She gives you love and hate, jealousy and reverence.
You have the power to choose which impulse you follow.
While your character is formed by your circumstances, your desires can shape those circumstances.
The one thing over which you have absolute control are your own thoughts.It is this that puts you in a position to control your own destiny.
Your greatest power is the power to choose.
The art of self control
Perfecting your character takes a lot of effort. It is not a goal that you accomplish and then you can relax because you have “made it.” Developing your character is an ongoing process which never ends. There will always be something or someone who will try to throw a monkey wrench into your peaceful existence. Controlling your thoughts and your emotions takes work, but the more that you practice these skills, the easier they will become.
The art of self-control is like every other endeavor; you will have good days and bad days in your quest to perfect this skill. Nobody is perfect, especially when it comes to controlling thoughts and emotions. There will be days when you fall short of your goal. I can assure you that you will have days in which you allow your anger or impatience to get the best of you, just as you will have days when your back kick does not click for whatever reason, but it is important that you don’t quit.
When you find that you are having a bad day with your physical training, you don’t say this is not working and never go back to the dojo. The same goes for your mental training. When you have a bad day, go home and relax, meditate, and cleanse your heart and mind.
Get things back in balance and know that every day you start with a clean slate. Once you actually get your heart clean, it is much easier to keep it clean. If you find the same things continue to throw you off balance time after time, go to the source and remove the root of your of your problem. Think about this.
What is Mindfulness?
Put simply, mindfulness is as simple as becoming aware of your here and now experience, both internally and in the external world around you. It gives you a space in the present moment to be able to more safely deal with the distressing and painful memories of things that might have happened to you in the past. It also allows you to look at and plan for the future, even when you might have fearful thoughts about things that haven’t yet happened, from a secure position of knowing that you are in the present moment. In fact, we are never NOT in the present moment – we just lose track of that fact quite often.
But isn’t mindfulness just concentration?
It is important to realize that there is a difference between mindfulness and concentration. Concentration is important. It helps you to focus your attention on one thing or another, and in this way it helps you to take command of what goes on in your mind. But mindfulness is another step beyond concentration. Mindfulness is a state of awareness. It is “presence” of mind.
Concentration is the tool you use to bring your mind into focus and to close the door on mental chatter, but it’s still up to you to “show up” and be present in the moment.
The Art of Stupidity 